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Your Kids Are Worried, Too

Many people in Southwest Florida believe that it is the land of haves or have nots. It’s no secret that there’s an incredible amount of affluence in the area. When there are a couple of million dollars of cars in a restaurant parking lot and some of those cars cost more than many people’s homes it’s clear that there are definitely some people more fortunate than others.

Not long ago, I had an opportunity to have lunch with several youngsters at a local middle school and the conversation we shared echoed the sentiments of many grown ups. The difference was that these were just kids. Each of these kids thought they were the only one that had worry, was scared, whose mother passed away, who got evicted, whose home was taken by the bank, who had diabetes, whose dad didn’t have a job or whose home didn’t have any food in it.

It is so easy to notice of the illusion of how perfect everybody else’s life seems to be and compare it to ones own reality, especially when the reality so darn ugly. It’s hard for people to realize the perceived reality of someone else’s life isn’t always as perfect as it looks, so how can kids?

These kids just broke my heart. They are little champions. The problems that they’re shouldering are huge, grown up issues. They feel that they’re alone and the only person who’s ever had set backs, loss or gone without. They don’t know that they’re not the only one. They really don’t have anyone to talk about it with, though.

You can see the worry in their eyes, it’s peeking out when they tell you about what they want to do when they grown up. They’ll tell you anything if you’ll take the time to listen.

Every person and every family, no matter how perfect things appear, has a story. Nobody’s life is so perfect that they don’t have something weighing heavy on their heart. It may be loss, foreclosure, bankruptcy, addiction or illness.

Most of the negative things are private matters happening behind closed doors with the illusion that everything is alright. Everyone has problems, especially these days, but kids don’t understand that. They really do think that it’s only their family that is struggling.

The downturn of the economy and real estate has caused a lot of pain for so many people, so many families. The kids are quietly watching this crisis and they’re secretly scared senseless. The kids are silent witnesses to it all and they are collateral damage that is going unnoticed. Almost everyone is looking right over their heads, past their little ears that are hearing everything.

Someone needs to let them know that the things that may have gone wrong within their life doesn’t mean that something is wrong with them. These kids have value that isn’t defined by their circumstances. They don’t know that. They’re just kids.

Maybe if you get a chance to spend some time with a kid, maybe even your own kid, you can let them know how important and worthy they are regardless of what they have or where they live.


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